birdprinxe said: Do you have any links or tips for androgynous looks that don't fully focus on masculinity as androgyny? I'm DMAB and genderfluid and just trying to be less masculine in presentation
There is an upsetting lack of information like that out there, but I have seen it come up sometimes. I always reblog it on my main blog, but I apparently have failed at tagging it so I can find it again. Sorry! All I could find so far are is a resource list for trans women (not specifically for nonbinary folks): http://prototran.tumblr.com/post/83040727257/trans-woman-resources
Maybe some followers have other info or tips?
when i’m going for the androgyny thing, in general i ask myself both “is it conceivable that this could be on a cis dude” and "is it conceivable that this could be on a cis lady." the second question is important and should always be true. the first question can be false sometimes, depending on the level of confidence you’re feeling. remember that as someone amab you’ll have to feminize in order to reach androgyny (you can’t wear plain ass neutral shit and have it be read as androgynous the way afabs can) but if you don’t quite want to cross that threshold into femininity you’ll have to mute it on some level.
- get your jeans from the women’s section, no exceptions. they will make you look so much better but as long as they’re not frilly or something they’ll keep you out of the masculine zone without necessarily crossing into femininity, depending on the rest of your outfit
- try muted makeup. foundation if you need it, with unexaggerated blush. try out mascara only for the eyes. lipstick (or colored chapstick) that’s close to your natural color
- cardigans maybe. i don’t do this as much anymore, but it was good and accessible as a starting point into androgyny
- accessorize. bracelets, painted nails, earrings. i feel noticeably different about my presentation when my nails are painted. black is a good starting point as it’s more muted
- find women’s cut shirts, but with tame colors/patterns. this is kind of pushing it but with the right coordination you can do this without crossing the threshold. you can also try the reverse and find men’s cut clothing with floral prints or something. imo this will more often get you read as “effeminate dude,” but it’s better than man shirts. try on a floral print button up and see how you feel about that
- get hoodies from the women’s section. do the same for anything else that’s pretty much the same between the men’s and women’s sections. the difference in look will even be indistinguishable sometimes but it will always make you feel better knowing where you got it from
- cut the sleeves and neck lines off your t shirts. if you do this with black shirts you can take it further and into the rocker look. this rocker look can be a neat tool to feminize a little further than you may have been able to otherwise; transfeminine presentation in the rocker scene gets more commonly read as androgyny
i was in the same place for a while wrt presentation and turned out to be a lady. for me the androgyny thing was and continues to be a tool i leverage to look more how i want without getting wrecked for it by cis people. good luck
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